“Asking great questions on a date can give you a lot of insight about the person sitting across from you,” Sarah Patt, matchmaker and dating expert tells Bustle.“This will give you a glimpse into their childhood and upbringing.” The thing to remember here is that no one gets to pick the family their born into (or um, wouldn’t you have picked Queen Elizabeth as your grandma?
First things first — the biggest piece of dating advice anyone could give you is this: don’t plan out your first dates because the best experiences are the ones that surprise you and put you out of your comfort zone. ) — here are starters: Patt says if you feel comfortable enough on your first date about their family history, it can tell you a lot.
That being said, if you’re going on a ton of first dates without much success or connection, dating experts recommend putting a little more creativity into the questions you ask on a first date. “If they are talking about their family, it shows they have great relationships with their parents and siblings,” she says.
) — so don’t judge them too harshly on what they tell you.
Instead, consider what matters to you in compatibility: do you care if their parents are separated?
And maybe most importantly, it’ll let you know if your interests are compatible.
If they’re an only child, is that a dealbreaker if you come from a big family?Even if someone is outgoing and friendly, they may not find it easy to talk about themselves. Karin Anderson Abrell, tells Bustle instead of asking direct questions about them, put someone else into the equation. Asking great questions will help determine if this person has what you are looking for in a partner so you can decide if their world is one you want to know more about, or become a part of.” So if you’re at a loss for what to stay to really stir up killer questions that lead to killer dates (and maybe a relationship? “By the end of the date, you want to be able to know if you connect with the person and whether or not you share similar lifestyles and values.’, this question will show the things that your date does to blow off steam.Life coach Kristy De Leon tells Bustle it’ll give you a glimpse into their social circle too.