Let's meet our straw woman You can't just conjure a woman out of thin air.
Only pictures and personality will to lend some verity to a profile, so a college friend gave me permission to use her pictures and make her face the star of this story.
"Many men seem to pounce on women online just as they would in real life," she said.
Jen Brit Millionaire dating has become one of the trends in recent years with the popularity of the TV show Millionaire Matchmaker.
but it's on life support and I've just completed an experiment that doesn't bode well for its future.
I spent a week on OKCupid under a female identity to see what it's like to be a woman looking for love online.
It was frustrating and tiring, far more trouble than I could imagine it being worth for a woman legitimately invested in it. Initially, I was engaging with people, replying to their messages and asking questions.
Ladies: I'm not going to claim some comprehensive understanding of the social plights of the modern woman, but OKCupid gave me a tiny peek into your part of the online dating world, and it's exhausting. The numbers are so overwhelmingly in their favor that I could kick back and watch my inbox fill with messages, no effort required after setting up the profile. But halfway through day two, I was having to comb through an inbox bursting with weirdness, deviance, and even cultural and racial insensitivity.
She's operating under the handle "Four Strong Windz" because she likes Neil Young.
As for the body of the profile (which you can read in its entirety by clicking on it above), I filled it out with feminine guidance from my fellow Business Insider colleague Caroline Moss. The good Take this guy, who seemed like a real sweetheart. He came on strong and wouldn't buzz off and then told me I seemed Jewish. I talked to Marni Kinrys, a dating and relationships expert who helps men overcome difficulties with women (she bills herself as "the ultimate wing girl," though she recently started offering advice to help women with men.) She recommends that her clients try this very exercise – impersonating a woman online – for the sake of experiencing what it's like to be on the receiving end of so many romantic, sexual, weird advances firsthand.
At some point it probably turns into a numbers game for them. And then there are the "scripts" she told me about: "Some men really blow it by using scripts or templates. By identifying this first, you can help narrow the pool of people online would would Part of me was disappointed in the lack of effort and sincerity that so many of my fellow men exercised in communicating with me, a supposed female Brooklynite who's single and looking.
If you send the same generic message to ten girls and get one response, it's easy to count that a success. The woman ends up interacting with a dynamic man over the Internet who can't make eye contact in person." Marni's advice for those having a go at online dating seems to boil down to simply knowing what you want in advance. How do you wade through all the verbal vomit that comes at you through your inbox?
I was so disillusioned with all the garbage messages I received that I actively disliked browsing the site. It's simply that the signal-to-noise ratio of it all dominated the tone of my experience.
My messages were so undesirable that by the second or third day of scopin' dudes and alternately receiving offers for casual sex and gushy fanmail based on nothing at all, I was over it.