I know I need to make a decision before things go too far (becoming too physical), but how do I know when?
I am trying not to let things move too fast physically or emotionally, but they both seem very interested and I just don’t know what to do.
The good news: because of the broad scope of the question, every reader who is interested in deciding between two men can use this advice.
Making a decision about a guy is no different than any other decision.
You weigh your pros and cons, you do your cost-benefit analysis, you use a little logic and a little emotion, and then make a largely arbitrary choice without knowing if you’re right.
They seem to be feeling pretty strongly so I feel some pressure to figure this out. So, Maggie, you’re seeing two great guys for 2-3 weeks.
You didn’t give me any identifying information that would allow me to recommend one man or the other, so all I’m left with is the general idea of dating multiple men simultaneously.
The problem is that I really like both of them and they both seem to be really amazing guys.
They follow up, they text, we talk, make plans…it’s all good. On the other hand, I don’t know how to manage this.
Many people may not see this as being a true problem.
But I don’t know how much to say to these men, or not say because it’s so early in the relationship.
Things have been going well, and I give a lot of credit to what I have learned from your book, emails and this site.
However, this is not something I have ever done before and I am having a hard time with the idea of juggling.