If you are a Scandinavian woman you will look back, with a wink (? The rest seems to be the woman’s job (see principle number 2: inversion of roles).
I found out that the Norwegian art of seduction is based on three basic principles. In any setting (a metro, a party, a bar) a man or a woman will look at you directly in the eyes for several seconds.
You might think, like me, that this guy is looking at you in a strange way. NO he is trying to seduce you with his hypnotising long eye-contact. Men will rarely do more than that in their part of the Norwegian seduction process.
You might ask yourself when seeing this title: is there really anything to say about seduction in Norway? In Italy one could write about the casanovas and the sexy brunettes agreeing with langourious eyes and loud conversations, in France it would be the born-seductors and the classy and snoby Parisian women teasing men with their red lipstick and long cigarettes. Yes the Norwegian people also have some codes and mysteries surrounding seduction, and they will all be revealed to you now!
As a disclaimer I must say they are probably not all revealed here, just those I’ve managed to catch despite poor Norwegian language skills and many cultural misunderstandings.
Some men actually like the chasing part, in our part of the world it is that which is called seduction.
You know, with a little style and dignity, not drunk with your fake tan getting off your face like I often saw in the UK.
In Copenhagen, where every Friday and Saturday evening see some kind of meat market going on in town, people look at each other for minutes and hours accross the room (party, bar) until one of them comes up to the other and says “my place or your place? Or women just come up to a guy in a cafe, handing their number and saying “I like you, call me”.
Here it is a little Post-it hidden in the guy’s pocket. It is only after some years in Norway that I realised that men do flirt in their own peculiar way in order not to do anything that might invade your private space.p So conclusion number one: men won’t do anything more than just looking at you for a few seconds to show interest because they are shy and/or scared and/or very respectful of women. The second basic principle is logically linked to the effect of the first principle. Scandinavian women work for it, whereas we sit there and bat our eyelashes.
As men are not very brave and need a lot of moral support and encouragement to talk to women, I have observed that there is an inversion of roles in what we, Southerners, see as the usual suspects: man chasing woman, woman playing hard to get, man trying to convince woman anyway by telling her that her eyes reflect all the stars of this universe, that she is beautiful, that no, she doesn’t look fat in that dress. They get active and invite men to dance and flirt openly whereas Southern women are taught to do these things subtly and discretely.
Apparently Scandinavian women are not used at all to be told by men “no thank you I am not interested in having sex with strangers whom I’ve had no conversation with beforehand”.
They got quite angry (of course this is second-hand information, I never experienced it myself).