In case it’s not obvious: Demonstrate creativity, intelligence and a great sense of humour • Be totally different to anything she may have received before • Be obviously unique and not a cut-and-paste job • Show that I’ve read her profile and absorbed facts about her • Not be needy!
However, it’s always good to back up hypotheses with facts, and that’s what Jon Millward did with this experiment, posted on his eponymous blog.
• The two most attractive women received 83% of all messages.
• The two most attractive women probably would have received several thousand more if their inboxes hadn’t have reached maximum capacity.
Whereas before a man just needed to be the best looking guy at work to get a date with a colleague, now he needed to be in the top 10% of all men to get a date with one of the women in his city.” This is the double-edged sword of online dating.
You have far more access to singles than ever before. Which means that there’s also far more COMPETITION.
• It took 2 months, 13 days for the most popular woman’s inbox to fill up.
At the current rate it would take the most popular man 2.3 years to fill up his. Well, you’ve seen this a few times before: “Most men compliment the attractive women a lot, they make reference to something in the woman’s profile (you would not believe how many times men mentioned the party tricks and ‘Arrow’ the cheetah from the generic profile I wrote), or they ask a general question about travel or something equally boring.” What SHOULD he write instead?
Especially when it comes to men trying to write to women.
For all the talk about “The End of Men” and how gender roles have been obliterated and women can write to men first, blahblahblah, here’s what ACTUALLY happened after four months: • The women as a group received over 20 times more messages than the men.