And even when the rare, Western-minded guy does approach a Western girl, the courtship can be notoriously awkward. Dating rules are defined by culture and then refined by people – “deal breakers” vary from person to person, not city to city.
This is a common stereotype, so I’ll be careful here: I’m .” It’s untrue, and for many Japanese women, foreigners can carry a stigma.
The culture of Japan assumes women will strike up a conversation first.
(Though, they usually don’t – so there are no babies).
They scored the phone number of practically every Japanese woman there, because no one could tell an exotic and interesting foreigner from a creepy clown, or else they just didn’t care.
Herbivores Japanese men are not, as assumed, timid or afraid, or uninterested in Western women.
The creepiness of men in Japan (homegrown and imported) has become something of a standing joke. For one, expat communities are small, and more men tend to come to Japan – especially if you factor in American military. Dance floors in Japan are jokes, because women will inevitably end up grinded on or groped by someone too sketchy to “ The Entitled Mind of the Expat Male Many female expats in Japan will tell you the decks are stacked.It’s the old samurai thing – a guy loses face approaching a woman.The girl’s supposed to be pouring his drinks and chatting him up.It’s a small percentage of Japanese women that see foreign men as desirable, but with a smaller percentage of foreign men, it’s enough. If you’ve ever had that borderline-racist thought that “all X look alike,” that is the ally of the dorky white expat. If you like white guys, it’s not really gonna matter; Western features are all the same.So, even socially awkward, moderately attractive men find a steady flow of interested partners, in a complete reversal of the culture they’re typically from.