In their eyes, this is confirmed by the fact that I just so happen to have had two black girlfriends in a row.
The title of this post is, however, not just for click bait purposes.
On one occasion, a child of no more than 10 years old nudged a friend and said much too loud "Look! Waiters and waitresses, both white and non-white, are visibly shocked when my partner takes the bill at a restaurant, as they've obviously assumed she's with me for my money; sometimes black women look at my partner and tut - they seem to feel that having a white boyfriend is some kind of conscious betrayal on her part; we once had to leave a hotel where we were visiting my parents for the day, because my partner felt uncomfortable about the way some old Germans were looking at her as we sat by the pool - something about the situation led her to believe they thought she was my prostitute. People come up and tell us that what we are doing is "important" or "revolutionary" or "special." Though the intentions are undoubtedly in the right place, the inference is in some way the same: that because of our color difference, our relationship must be about something other than just two people who love each other.
First off, apologies if you've been mislead by the title of this post. People literally stop in their tracks, their jaw falls open and their brain suddenly seems to malfunction. Some days I can make myself ignore it, but sometimes I'm tired, and I just want to be able to hold hands with my partner without feeling people's eyes on us from all sides. Other times I think about telling people that if they're so damn interested by us, we'll let them take a picture for R20.
If you're really looking for advice on how to date black South African girls, then this is not the place for you. Contrary to what you might expect, the more youthful observers are often the worst culprits. Sometimes I want to turn around and scream "For God's sake! But worse than the staring and gawking is the perceived judgment that so often comes with it.
The blatant staring and incredulity can be boring enough to have to deal with day in, day out.
I've even felt the judgments from many of my closest white friends.
They've joked about my "jungle fever," or implied that I obviously just have a "thing" for black girls, or that I always have to be different.
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