And even if you do lose everything, you can make it all back and then some. Being flaky doesn’t just impact your relationships, it impacts your self-esteem and anxiety levels. Sure, there may be people in your life who don’t belong there, but it’s up to you get rid of the people who bring you down, call you names or make fun of you for dreaming big. Never take nutrition or dating advice from Cosmo Magazine.
Life is full of surprises, so buckle up and enjoy the ride. When you say you’re going to do something or be somewhere, follow through. There will be times where you’ll have to tell someone “no” and it will scare you, but you have to set boundaries for others or you’ll end up feeling used. Most of the stories are made up anyways, and the nutrition advice is just based on corporate sponsorship. If your gut tells you the new guy is bad news, walk away. It may be virtually impossible to convince you to take the advice your mom gave you over dinner one night, but chances are she learned the hard way. One day, you’re going to be married, have kids, or comment on how your cat is so lucky that they don’t have any responsibility.
There are 20 things I wish I could have told my younger self… That ex-boyfriend of yours who always wanted you to dress up, wear heels, and look sexy for him all the time, isn’t and never will be “the one”.
This also ensures you think twice before committing to something that doesn’t actually inspire you. If you really want to be healthy or have a good relationship, read books and listen to your intuition. As you get older, you’ll come to trust that your gut is your most trusted advisor. Learning your own lessons is very important, but feel free to skip and move ahead once in a while by learning from people who have “been there, done that”. Just enjoy this time you have to be young, and hopefully care-free. Save your money and never put all of it into a joint bank account with a boyfriend. You’re going to lose people, get your heart-broken, feel alone, and totally depressed.
Make sure you take care of yourself first and have a nest egg set aside just in case there’s an emergency, or change of heart. Your natural hair color is and always will be the prettiest. It’s ok to experiment, just remember that changing the way you look can never change who you are inside, and that is what matters most. Nothing is ever permanent, so next time you’re wrapped up in thoughts of how awful everything is – visualize the way you want things to be instead.
You don’t have to be, so keep pursuing your dreams and never give up. Your true friends are the ones who are there for you, who listen to you and who support you in healing, but don’t enable you to play the victim in your own life. In the moment, taking responsibility might seem like the most painful route, but trust me when I say that taking ownership over the choices you make in life will save you from a lot of healing work in the future. If making-out and sex are the only activities you get up to with the guy you have a crush on, he’s not going to make you his girlfriend.
True friends will call you on your sh*t and empower you to grow. Guys who are in it for more than just physical interaction will call to ask how your day was, take you for walks, and introduce you to their friends.
It might not happen until your 30’s or 40’s, but healing is always more challenging than prevention. If you love sports, playing music, or writing, keep doing it. This might sound funny to you now, but believe me when I tell you that all of your failures are laying out a path for you to succeed big-time.
Take care of yourself while you’re young and spare yourself the trouble. If you ask most adults who gave up, they’ll tell you how much they wish they would have continued on with their piano lessons, or followed their hearts and pursued their athletic career. It’s better to fail before you make it, than to fail when you’ve already made it and lose everything due to lack of experience.
Growing up is one of the most painful and exciting things any of us will ever have to do, and when we get there, most of us will question whether or not anyone ever truly grows up.
Most days, I’m happy to say I still feel very child-like, just with a better set of communication tools, more self-respect and a lot more confidence.
Eventually, the tide will turn and life will be more amazing than you ever thought possible.