She also uses actual science to back up her approach, which essentially makes you into a beacon to attract the right person She uses real, legit data to back up her claim that, yeah, smart people marry smart people. Yes, this is a feminist dating book written by editor Samhita Mukhopadhyay. She shows you the ways that, as the subtitle says, “dating is ruining your love life” — but, more accurately, how media and pop culture and self-help books and so-called experts are ruining your love life.
As she ponders marrying her longtime boyfriend, partly because he needs a green card, she comes to terms with her aversion to the institution by exploring its history around the world.
As a bonus, it’ll give you loads of intellectual conversation material.
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Average Amy Spencer’s guide to using optimism to attract your perfect mate is far more reasonable and rational than its scare-tactic brothers and sisters in the relationship aisle. Plus: Do I Tell My Best Friend I’m In Love With Him Even Though He’s Taken?
Set aside your annoyance with author Elizabeth Gilbert’s breakthrough, .
(It’s not her fault the movie made it worse.) Here she merges the confessional memoir style that made her famous with the journalism that she practiced for years before that in an examination of what makes marriage marriage.
We do, however, sometimes need a bracing punch in the face about what, exactly, we want so badly when we go trolling for partners in smoky bars, at singles soccer league, online.
Don’t worry, Kipnis’ very entertaining look at all our dumb societal ideas about love will hardly turn you celibate, or even unromantic.
For most of us, there’s no more dysfunctional relationship in our lives than the one we have with self-help books that purport to tell us the secrets to relationships.
We know they’re silly, full of crap, and oftentimes detrimental (hi, one will tell me the ultimate secret to love and everlasting happiness. But as a longtime lover/hater of such books, I’ve become a bit of a connoisseur.
And I can tell you that if you read one of these five (admittedly not your typical self-help books, but instructional and relationship-oriented nonetheless), you won’t hate yourself in the morning.
In fact, you’ll learn something useful along the way: Plus: How To Stop Playing The Blame Game When You’re Single Yes, it seems weird to start a list of “good books about love” with a book called love any more than they can be against puppies or babies or beautiful sunsets.