Does Gretchen Weiners have a point about the rules of feminism? So in your opinion, what are the rules about dating exes?And that created a whole shitshow of drama and insecurity for me. If you're ever feeling temptation island, I advise you to think about how YOU would feel if your ex and BFF hooked up.
Basically, I encouraged my gay BFF to hang with an ex of mine because why not? The second I set it up though, I regretted it, because I started thinking about what would happen if they hit it off and crushed on each other. We don't betray the ones we love the most, or at least we try not to!
Even though I no longer had feelings for my ex, that didn't mean I would want him shacking up with my best friend! Luckily, they didn't hook up, but I felt like my ex would have if given the opportunity. I understand that no one is perfect and that shit does, in fact, sometimes happen, but your best friend and your ex hooking up is a BIG dump to take.
Still, what I found most interesting is when I would go to friends and ask for advice on the issue and some people would say to me, "Your ex has a right to make a move on your best friend.
You don't own him."Here's the thing: I don't ever want to date my ex again.
Coping requires knowing your feelings, talking to your friend and deciding upon some strategies to keep your friendship intact.
Dealing with your feelings Being supportive Working around awkward situations Community Q&A Breaking up can be hard and is even harder in that odd situation where your friend starts dating him or her after you broke up.
Dealing with this awkward arrangement will likely bring about a roller-coaster of feelings and fears but it is great that you've decided to deal with it rather than ignore it.
I don't think those are the rules of feminism so much as the rules of human decency. That's some Dawson-Joey-Pacey kind of betrayal, and I can only imagine the level of hurt you've been feeling.
I dealt with a similar sort of situation with an ex and a best friend.
For a moment, things got so bad that my ex and I stopped talking for a bit, but we're fine now, thankfully. While I wouldn't mind seeing my ex go hook up and be happy with a stranger, there is an undeniable sting when it's with someone you know. Maybe if we didn't have the capacity to feel jealousy and insecurity, we could all just have a big happy orgy.
We met up recently, and it turned out, like with most things, to be a matter of miscommunication. And I don't think you should ever apologize or justify that sting.